Warriors and Mothers
What are the virtues of an entrepreneur?
What qualities of mind do you and I need if we are going to succeed as artist/entrepreneurs?
One answer (the one I usually use) is to say we need the virtues of warriors:
The ability to endure adversity.
Another way is to say we need the virtues of mothers.
I had a dream once. I was living in New York, driving a cab at night, trying to write in the daytime. A friend came to visit. My friend was one of these wildly extroverted guys, who immediately went out on the town and came back with fabulous stories of all the fun he was having. I found myself thinking, I should be like him. Why am I denying myself everything, busting my butt day and night? Have fun, Steve! Stop being such a monk!
Then I had the dream. In the dream another friend’s wife, who happened to be pregnant at that time, came to me and sat down at my kitchen table. “Steve, you are pregnant too,” she said, “with that book you’re writing. You can’t go out partying. Your responsibility is to the new life growing inside you.”
The dream was right.
I woke up and immediately stopped worrying.
That movie that’s gestating inside you? That’s your baby.
That new business.
The virtues you and I need to develop are the virtues of mothers.
A mother puts her own needs second (or third or fourth or fifth.) The needs of her child come first.
A mother will kill to protect her baby.
She will sacrifice her own life.
She’ll run into a burning building to save her child.
She’ll lift a Buick off her infant with her bare hands.
A mother knows how to say no.
No, she won’t go to the club.
No, she won’t drink those mojitos.
No, she won’t ingest that banned substance.
A mother eats right.
A mother gets her sleep.
A mother weans herself off Facebook and Twitter and Pinterest and Instagram (at least most of the time.)
A mother is the definition of tough-minded.
A mother is the consummate professional.
She is in it for keeps.
She is in it for the long haul.
She is in it 24/7/365.
Nothing under the sun can shake a mother from her object, which is to nurture and protect and defend and prepare her baby to grow into its fullest possible potential.
A warrior is nothing compared to a mother.
Wanna be an artist? An entrepreneur?
Be a mother.