The Most Important Tool In Your Arsenal
Say thank you
As in, on a card.
No cold, white, computer paper.
In your own handwriting.
With a pen that isn’t running out of ink.
Sharpies are nice. I like thin and medium tipped.
It’s a good way to connect. They’ll remember you.
Of the thousands of books Black Irish gives away every year? I remember the ones who say thank you. The e-mails are in the dozens. The hand-written notes? Count them on my hands.
When I work with clients? There’s a long list of moving pieces. The never-cut, most-often repeated one? The thank you.
I served up Mama and her trolls two weeks ago. The positive force canceling her crazy clan’s negative? The thank you.
Two short, powerful words.
If you’re at a loss on how to make a new connection… Start with a thank you. But…
Don’t do it because you want something in return, even though you do kind of hope something will come in return.
Kindness is appreciated. When you send it out. It will return.
A resounding thank you for this Callie! My mother fostered this habit in me as soon as I learned to print in first grade. I wonder how many moms still do that in this age of email?
A thank you is also a tolkien given to the universe. Gratitude is a powerful force for good!
Forget Sharpies. Find a nice, broad-nibbed fountain pen with pretty ink and nice paper. You’ll end up using it for those times you’re not writing at your computer. Check out the Fountain Pen Network if you think fountain pens are outdated, antiques. There’s a global community using them to save their hands. As well as a host of big name writers.
You’re welcome. (wink)
Beth, where to start (again) with fountain pens and journaling (actually anything)? Just looked at FPN and like it. Am trying to return to constant writing with FP but get blocked with them dragging on various papers, so the thought train immediately vanishes…any thoughts, please?
Thank you for this Callie. I tell my daughters (Okay – and anyone who will listen) to always send a hand written Thank-you card whenever they have a job interview, whether they get the job or not. Right away. People took time to talk to you, acknowledge it.
Thank-you to you, Callie, for always saying “Thanks” for comments and for always being a shining example of good manners.
I think this is even more true now in the age of e-communications.
The subject heading of the e-mail piqued my interest: “The Most Important Tool In Your Arsenal.”
How could I not read on?
Sometimes the simplest advice is the most profound.
Oh, and a big thank you shout out, Miss Callie!
Well, then, thank you. As always. With a sharpie. 🙂
I regularly send thank you cards to my college professors after grades are posted. I really should get into the habit of doing it more. Thanks for this simple but highly usable tip today.
I want to thank you for the books you have made available for free.Thank you very much they have been are and will be a great help and encouragement to me.I will have to buy some Sharpies so I can send you a written Thank You.I am blessed to have found you and all your assistance.Thank you for being so generous.
At a seminar I once asked a panel of job-hirers if it was true that it was OK to send a thank you note after a job interview (because I was skeptical) They looked at each other and answered me that yes, it’s OK.
On a broader note, besides having an attitude of gratitude for life (and don’t you just love how your fellow writers are awake to the world?) we can also have an attitude of appreciation for others. I once thanked a person for the extra work on one of his blog post and he commented, “Thanks. Glad somebody noticed.”
Which meant he was going unnoticed by us for that post. We can do better than that.
I started writing in fanfiction and if someone left me a review, I took the time to thank them for it. It felt like the least I could do. Other people argued with me: ‘you wrote the story, you don’t need to thank them for reading it.’
I disagreed and I ignored them. And I kind of stumbled onto the way to make die-hard fans. They read everything I posted. They voted for me in competitions. They joined other sites when I told them about it.
And as an extra bonus, *they made my day*. They made my stories better when they made suggestions or pointed out a mistake, or something I had forgotten about.
And when I finally publish my own stuff, it will be those fans who will buy it.
Why wouldn’t I thank them for that?
Namiki makes the coolest retractable fountain pen. I gifted myself a few years ago. “Namaki vanishing point”
Thank You ! 🙂
This is wonderful, Callie, and so true.