Get to “I Love You,” Cosmic Version

We’ve been saying over the past couple of weeks that the dramatic arcs of many, many novels and movies can be seen as simply

            Get to “I love you.”

Start with two characters who are as far apart as they can be (or are indifferent or utterly resistant to one another), then bring them together somehow over the course of the story so that by the final moment they connect truly on the deepest, most intimate level.

The next question is, “Why does this work?”

Why does it always work?

Here’s my answer on the cosmic level:

I think “Get to ‘I love you’” is the prime spiritual imperative of human life itself.

One of the great “Get to ‘I love you’s’” in recent films is the final moment in Logan. Do you know the movie? It’s the concluding episode in the X-Men Wolverine saga, starring Hugh Jackman as the steel-clawed mutant who is too isolated, too traumatized, too dark to care or to love.

Dafne Keen and Hugh Jackman as “Laura” and “Logan”

Now in this final instalment, in his most-human-like form as “Logan,” he shares a geographic and emotional odyssey with a young mutant girl named Laura (Dafne Keen), who also possesses the Wolverine claws and the Wolverine fury, having been laboratory-conceived and laboratory-bred from Logan’s own DNA. 

But Laura loves him. He’s a father figure to her. She needs him. She wants to help him. She becomes attached to him.

Logan/Wolverine resists young Laura throughout the story until finally finally finally, after saving her from the Bad Guys … and having allowed her at last into his cold, bitter heart, with his terminal breath he declares

                                    LOGAN

            So this is what it feels like.

And he dies. 

He dies happy, or at least at peace.

I think that’s the journey of every human. It’s Odysseus’ journey, it’s Hamlet’s, it’s Henry Miller’s. It’s yours and mine.

If you follow this blog, you know that I believe life happens on two levels—the material plane and the plane of the soul.

On the material level, we show up in physical form as isolated individuals. I can hurt you and it won’t hurt me. I can ignore you and it won’t hurt me. I can kill you and it won’t hurt me.

But on the cosmic plane, the laws are different.

We’re all one on that plane.

All souls are interconnected and interdependent.

If I hurt you, it hurts me, etc.

I don’t know why all of us or any of us were put here or appeared here on this dark and brutal plane, unless it was … maybe … to learn that lesson. To make that breakthrough to love. 

To live by the laws of the higher plane here on the lower.

That’s what stories are about, if you ask me. That’s their purpose. That’s why we need them. They’re here to show us, to inspire us to get to “I love you.”

Interesting too, isn’t it, how many of the most moving stories end with the principal character, the hero, sacrificing his or her life … all she has, all she will ever have … for love, for another human being. And that that sacrifice is, in the story, the ultimate act of self-realization and fulfilment.

                        LOGAN

            So this is what it feels like.

He got to “I love you.”

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37 Comments

  1. Peter Brockwell on July 15, 2020 at 2:40 am

    Wow. What a post. Existential and profound. I guess ‘I love you’ on the higher plane really is arriving at loving oneself, finally? Which, after all, seems to be one of the hardest things in life, and far harder than loving another person. And loving oneself, well, that means loving and bonding with all of creation and all beings, friend and foe alike?

    Like all Steve’s posts, he’s raised more questions than he’s answered, and set us off on a trajectory of pondering, wondering and wandering.

  2. Mary Doyle on July 15, 2020 at 5:21 am

    What a beautiful, thought-provoking post! This is what we all to aspire to, not just as writers, but as human beings. I’ll be thinking about this one for a long time. Thank you, Steve!

  3. bob therriault on July 15, 2020 at 8:09 am

    Knocked that one right out of the park Steve.

    • Susanne Dejanovich on July 16, 2020 at 7:35 am

      This is so powerful. This has been my philosophy forever. So sad that so many people don’t get this. But everyone on your blog are so positive. This is the highest goal that we should all shoot for.

      Steven, you are an inspiration. Thank you.

  4. Zack+Derese on July 15, 2020 at 8:09 am

    What?!? Wolverine dies? How dare you spoil the ending!

  5. Kyle on July 15, 2020 at 8:13 am

    This sums up my spiritual practice for nearly the last 9 years since I learned meditation from a dear friend and mentor. He said the same thing. I can feel the truth in these words now just as I did then. Love is the way

  6. Kenneth N Proudfoot on July 15, 2020 at 8:19 am

    Yes.
    Excellent.
    As EH said, “The true gen.”

  7. Harry Roger Williams, III on July 15, 2020 at 8:26 am

    This made me think of Stranger in a Strange Land, which had the additional “bonus” of an alien (to earthlings) form of communion after the hero’s willing sacrifice.

  8. Chuck DeBettignies on July 15, 2020 at 8:32 am

    Steven! – That’s just so profound and insightful. I’ve almost died twice (near death experience and all that). What you laid out here is completely consistent with those experiences. I’ve never seen it put into words so well.

  9. Robert vanderMark on July 15, 2020 at 8:36 am

    Brilliant, Steve.

    -Bob

    • Bane on July 15, 2020 at 10:09 am

      “There’s no living with a killing,…There’s no going back from it. Right or wrong, it’s a brand, a brand that sticks. There’s no going back. Now, you run on home to your mother and tell her, tell her everything’s alright, and there aren’t any more guns in the valley.”

  10. Bing on July 15, 2020 at 8:49 am

    The bible says God is love, that is the fuel that keeps me going.
    The Big Bank perhaps was an act of love.
    Some people find love in concentration camps under the worst conditions possible.
    Love is what this great country of ours needs for each other.

    • Susanne Dejanovich on July 16, 2020 at 7:37 am

      Amen.

  11. Ian on July 15, 2020 at 9:25 am

    One of your very best posts. Nailed it.

  12. Suzyn on July 15, 2020 at 9:32 am

    Can the love you get to be self love? I’m guessing yes.

  13. Ms. Moretti on July 15, 2020 at 9:37 am

    Yes, yes – always the dance of the physical vs. the cosmic plane. I know it’s part of my life to make my way with this. I think that is why a good story leads us through this journey. It represents a point of view, and a character’s way of how they got to their own transcendent “I love you,” and then we are touched because this resonates through the part of us that is so often hiding behind our ego/beliefs/shortcomings/fears. Anything that reminds me or brings me to this is worth my attention.
    Thank you!

  14. Sam Luna on July 15, 2020 at 9:59 am

    I’ve been ruminating over the ending of a story and man did this post help get me thinking. Thanks as always Coach!

  15. Bane on July 15, 2020 at 10:10 am

    “There’s no living with a killing,..There’s no going back from it. Right or wrong, it’s a brand, a brand that sticks. There’s no going back. Now, you run on home to your mother and tell her, tell her everything’s alright, and there aren’t any more guns in the valley.”

  16. Andrew lubin on July 15, 2020 at 10:34 am

    For all of us who believes ‘The opposite of fear is love’; this makes perfect sense.

  17. Gwen+Abitz on July 15, 2020 at 11:17 am

    In her wonderful book, HEART MINDED, Sarah Blondin shares this poem Hafiz poem, I HEARD GOD LAUGHING: “We should talk about this problem: There is a beautiful creature, Living in a hole you have dug. So late at night I set fruits and grains And little pots of milk Beside your soft earthen mounds. and I often sing. But still, my dear, You do not come out. I have fallen in love with Someone Who hides inside you. We should talk about this – Otherwise, I will never leave you alone.”

    Sarah also writes in her book: “The unharnessed mind will keep trying to get in the way of our heart centered, heart minded self.”

    “Emancipate yourself from mental slavery; none but ourselves can free our minds. ~Marcus Garvey~

  18. Marina Goritskaia on July 15, 2020 at 11:36 am

    First thought: “What? Jesus-died-for-you-therefore-you-have-to-suffer again?”. Second thought: “That’s obvious, every teenager thinks of it and even animals sacrifice themselves for the greater population if necessary”. A truth of two edges, too often and easily used for propaganda.

  19. Barbara L Edie on July 15, 2020 at 12:06 pm

    As someone who lives, writes, and works on both “planes”, this is one of your most powerful posts Steve. The simple, profound, precise truth of human existence.

  20. Lyn Blair on July 15, 2020 at 12:44 pm

    Wonderful, wonderful post, the best of yours I’ve read yet. And what was so wonderful about it? You got to “I love you.” I wholeheartedly believe in that soul plane of existence too.Yes. “I love you” is the purpose of stories.

  21. Apostolis+Alexopoulos on July 15, 2020 at 1:39 pm

    Thank you mr. Steven,

    my first thought is that the word love is misused. They even connect chocolates (they’re just cocoa and sugar) and candies with it! And the meanings it takes are so many that we use it more like a symbol-of-many-turns and less like a specific truth. But there, we all want to feel that vague thing: It’s like our loving mother’s hug in the house that she keeps clean and with all bills payed for us, when we are sick or got the worst grades at school. It may be that we need that hug to feel safe against all threats.

    Love is beautiful and I’m pretty sure (emotionally) that we can give it even more names like cosmos or “the flow” or who knows what on that other place, that plane of the soul. I think it’s crucial to seperate it – even by changing its name – from all commercial “loves” out there. They are a different thing. The one love may be the wholehearted search for the meaning – in mind and body and heart – of existence, and the others may be just small win-oriented results.

    And thanks for the x-men stuff… haven’t seen them for a long time… Im getting the 3 best of them now, waiting for resistance’s head to stare at me with a big clever laugh behind the megabites 😉

  22. Cathy Ryan on July 15, 2020 at 1:44 pm

    You put your finger tip right on the point. simple and elegant. Thank you.

  23. Maxima Kahn on July 15, 2020 at 2:52 pm

    Yes, thank you. That is the best human journey we can make and the one we as a species desperately need to make now or else it will spell our doom, as it does in so many stories where some character fails to make the journey: “To make that breakthrough to love.” I love your courage and clarity in spelling this out so clearly for us, as writers, as humans.

  24. Brian Nelson on July 15, 2020 at 3:05 pm

    I read this initially this morning on my phone after meeting a buddy for a walk along the Puget Sound.
    In my car.
    Alone.
    And I wept.

    The world was just waking up, and I’m in my car with tears running down my face.

    Read it again this afternoon with all the terrific comments. Powerful JuJu. Didn’t cry this time, but felt renewed.
    Thank you for synthesizing life into a 553-word post.
    bsn

    • Maureen Anderson on July 16, 2020 at 9:13 am

      I can’t remember NOT loving one of Steve’s posts, so I don’t usually weigh in to tell him how much I did. But when I saw your comment, Brian — that he’d synthesized life into this one — I thought, “Maybe I should read it again.”

      So I did.

      What struck me after I finished this time was how my husband doesn’t necessarily say “I love you” with flowers or whatever. But the other day, when I asked him where he thinks his open-mindedness comes from, he gave me the credit. He said I’m constantly expanding his worldview and added, “You’re a thought provoker.” Who needs roses when I have the look on his face as he tells me something I didn’t know about either one of us?

      Now I see what you’re saying, Brian. And many thanks to you, Steve…as usual!

  25. Julie Murphy on July 15, 2020 at 4:26 pm

    Well said. Thank you.

  26. Jule Kucera on July 15, 2020 at 6:15 pm

    And isn’t that what happens here, with your posts and our comments.

    We get to ‘I love you.’

  27. Jurgen+Strack on July 16, 2020 at 1:54 am

    “Some people never say the words ‘I love you’, but like a child they’re longing to be told.” (lyric from a Paul Simon song)

  28. A.L. Chittur on July 16, 2020 at 3:49 am

    A great post; I’ve been interested in this idea since your first a couple weeks ago and it’s gotten me thinking about my current story project. I haven’t given as much thought to that endpoint of the story arc as I should–but I definitely agree, getting to “I love you” represents something primal in all of us. An ultimate objective worth striving for, no matter how long it takes to realize. Even if it takes until our final moment.

  29. Nancy Adair on July 16, 2020 at 7:42 am

    I am so inspired by this blog that I wished I could make the 2 protagonists in my WiP break up. I realize, however, that the woman’s quest is to reunite with her parents, to make them love her again after they inaccurately blamed her for the death of her sister. Does that count?

  30. Marília on July 16, 2020 at 7:53 am

    What a beautiful post! So inspiring! Thank you, Steven!

  31. Julio on July 18, 2020 at 1:53 pm

    All…that…trouble….just for….’I love you.’
    Silly human beings that we are.

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  33. Coby Brian on November 12, 2023 at 5:18 pm

    The journey from initial distance or resistance to the ultimate expression of love, encapsulated in the phrase “Get to ‘I love you,'” serves as a universal narrative arc that resonates deeply with audiences. This cosmic imperative reflects a fundamental aspect of human existence—the yearning for connection and intimacy. In Logan, the culmination of the Wolverine saga exemplifies this theme, with Hugh Jackman’s character evolving from isolation and trauma to a poignant moment of connection. What makes Monoposto stand out is how realistic the race unfolds, capturing the essence of human endeavor and the pursuit of connection, paralleling the cosmic imperative in a way that elevates both storytelling and immersive experiences. In essence, it’s a yes to the inherent power of narratives that guide characters toward the profound realization of love.

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