Equal and Opposite
We spoke last week about Resistance “coming second.”
We said that self-doubt/fear/procrastination/distraction/perfectionism etc. only arise in response to (and reaction against) a DREAM, i.e., the book we dream of writing, the podcast we want to start, the creative enterprise we dream of initiating.
There’s a corollary to this truth:
The degree of Resistance we feel will be EQUAL AND OPPOSITE to the power and importance of our dream.
Little dream = little Resistance.
Big dream = big Resistance.
The visual we cited last week was a tree in the middle of a sunny meadow. The tree (our Dream) inevitably casts a shadow (the fear/self-doubt etc. we feel to pursuing that dream.)
The bigger the tree, the bigger the shadow.
How does it help us to understand this? Because when we find ourselves feeling MASSIVE RESISTANCE to some creative project, we can be certain that that project is VERY IMPORTANT to us and to the evolution of our soul.
Big Resistance = Big Dream.
In other words, the worse we feel … the better.
Resistance senses that our Dream is important, that it’s critical to our development … so it marshals all its dark resources to stop us from pursuing it.
We can use that to encourage ourselves. The bigger the shadow, the bigger the Dream.
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Amateurs have amateur habits. Pros have pro habits. When we turn pro, we give up the comfortable life but we find our power. Steve answers the question, "How do we overcome Resistance?"
Resistance uses its massive size to intimidate and scare us away from the holy arena of artists. It doesn’t want us anywhere near the ring of champions. So it frustrates or frightens us away from our calling. But if we enter the arena and stay just enough, Resistance will yield!
…I meant to say “stay just long enough”.
I hope that’s true but I suspect not. What do you do when it’s been ages and you can’t overcome it? What do you have to surrender in order to step out of the shadow and overcome it?
As a contrarian, “the worse we feel… the better,” make me and my muse smile.
How do we get through it? We don’t. It has to get through us. Release everything that blocks it, from the core. Know you’re free of it. Get it out! Your project-your work. G-d, the source, or the Creator is working through you.
Me too. That got me snorting.
I am rounding the bend on the 4th or 5th or 6th rewrite of a memoir called Strings Attached – its Lolita but from the girls perspective. Finishing this means putting the past in the past and opening the space for new projects – and life. This has been a decades (pl) long endeavor. Yikes!
Q: how do we know when the rewriting is Resistance or just good, thorough craft? (Crafty question, eh?)
I suppose the object isn’t perfection. It’s release and set free. Try it and see what happens. Use that memoir as the catalyst to your freedom and trust your readers will like you even if it isn’t perfect.
Thanks, Steve. You may never know how many writers, artists, musicians, entrepreneurs, and enlightened humans you have helped on their journeys. Count this one. Your words of encouragement and insight help to push and pull me through the tough spots. May we all be able to give thanks and to pass on a blessing to others.
Jackie, I’m thankful for Coach, you, and everyone who takes a minute to post their thoughts on Writing Wednesdays. Whether you know it or not, you all have talked me off the proverbial ledge more times than I can count.
Same here Sam. Thank you.
It’s in that spirit I submit the most inspiring thing I’ve read lately — outside of Writing Wednesdays, of course 🙂
https://tim.blog/2024/10/01/elizabeth-gilbert-2-transcript/#content
I sometimes think that resistance cuts deep. It make it feel like you’re injured in some way. The I remembered a quote I heard…The light only enters through a wound.
So now I realize why I keep buying the supplies for the Dream: The paper, the books that counsel How-To, the new guitar, and “The War of Art”. Continually laying groundwork for the ‘someday’ that work will be ‘ready to begin”.
( deep sigh….). The microphone is lying here on my desk next to the TASCAM recorder for the last 2 months, and I am exhausted, I tell myself, from the surgery, the shopping, the cooking. It’s really from the accusation of the microphone, the TASCAM, the music rack….Thanks Steve, I needed that.
I agree 110%!
Thank you, Steven. This explains so much retroactively and makes way for what I can expect going forward on a dream that’s HUGE. Serious import, historical significance; an immense leafy oak of the “if not now, when” strain decades-in-the-making. Perhaps the distractions you mention are part of the reason for the decades!
Really happy to read here that you’ve added to this Resistance tension idea from last week. I have been pondering it big time. Super helpful now to think in proportion. I so want to rightsize my potential.
Thanks, Steven.
This analogy of Resistance as the shadow of a Dream resonates deeply. It’s fascinating how the greater the aspiration, the stronger the inner pushback we experience.
Dreams and Resistance seem to follow the same principle: understanding and tackling the challenges is key to progress and success.
Any place I could order copies of the tree photos for a little inspiration? Thanks
In my case, the biggest resistance that I was facing occurred before a few major events in my life. Before my first vision quest, before I was about to sell my apartment and embrace the uncertainty ahead of me, huge resistance appeared before I started to move my writing from morning pages to writing on my computer, registering my journey daily. Soon after selling the apartment, very strong resistance was present in me for a few weeks, if not months, before I finally decided to fly to Africa for the first time. As I reflect on them, in every case the solution and the way to overcome the resistance was to keep moving forward in small, daily steps. No matter which of those, committing myself and gradually taking one step at a time helped me to move through the biggest waves of resistance and discover what was on the other side of the calling.
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Thank you so much dear Steve for reminding us.
Where we feel bad, concerning a dream, everyone felt bad. We all go through the same winds in our journey to Ithaca. The difference is the set of the sail.
I still have that vision, intuition, or whatever it is, that there is a way to overcome that bad feeling Resistance brings us. But I feel it’s something complex, diffricult to find. But it feels like it’s true and it’s like waking up after a good night’s sleep: flow. Flow. Not there though, no proofs from me.
P.s. I don’t remember if I mentioned it, a book that may be interesting. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, “Flow”.
Let’s go. We’re still not there but the light and the shadows guide us.
Dear Steven,
This tree, sky, and the words “big resistance ~ big dream ” perfectly describes my current situation.
I’m grateful for the nudge today ~
Working on my memoir, ‘Products of Deception’ ~ think Backdraft meets
Radium Girls meets Dark Waters.
Sincerely,
Diane Cotter
Just nice. I like it.